Permission to Feel Everything - Even the Really Bad Stuff - and Still Create New Potentials

Conscious creation can turn into a performance trap of trying to stay high vibe all the time. Here’s what we learned about how to feel everything and still create new potentials.

When Linda was going through her journey of healing, she found herself standing at a powerful crossroads. It’s a situation that many people face when learning about conscious creation, though they might not recognise it at the time.

On one side, she was being encouraged to harness the power of elevated emotions. She was learning that gratitude, joy, and love weren’t just pleasant inner states - research links these emotions to changes in our biology and immune response and they may even influence the field of potentials around us.

And this isn’t just emotional theory. It’s physiology and physics. The heart’s electrical field is around 50 times stronger than the brain’s, and its magnetic field is estimated to be up to 5,000 times stronger. When we access elevated states like gratitude, compassion, or joy, the heart’s rhythm becomes coherent. That coherence affects everything: our nervous system, our immune response, and the informational field around us. It doesn’t stay contained inside the body either. It radiates outwards, several feet in every direction, and interacts with the environment around us.

“The emotional state we embody is quite literally something we broadcast. We become part of the atmosphere - a part of what’s shaping reality.”

But on the other side of this, Linda was also at times scared, moving through thoughts and emotions of fear, anxiety and grief. These didn’t feel “high vibe” at all. But yet they were deeply human, and completely valid.

And this is where I was challenged too.

You see, my background before all this was in the Three Principles. I had spent years helping people find peace by dropping resistance to their feelings. One of Sydney Banks’ earliest insights, the one that launched the 3Ps, was simple:

“You’re not insecure, Syd. You just think you are.”

The implication was clear: thought creates feeling.

That recognition changed my life. It played a huge part in my recovery from chronic fatigue because I stopped treating every uncomfortable feeling as data about my health or my life. I stopped resisting - not just my emotions, but the situations around me, even my symptoms. And when the resistance dropped, my nervous system could finally settle. My body could heal.

I taught the Principles for years, and still it forms a big part of our work. But if I’m honest, something in me never fully bought into the idea that feelings were only created by thought. As I see it, our physiology plays a role too, and I always explained it more as “thought creates our experience of feeling” because it seemed to me that how we related to our emotions was the thing that made the real difference.

But somewhere along the way, I had also quietly picked up a dogma: a belief that we can’t really deliberately choose our feelings, and trying to is part of the problem. It’s almost like “trying to choose” is another subtle form of resistance to what is. I’m not sure this was taught to me specifically, but apparently I had been operating as if it was true.

And it was looking more and more like it wasn’t.

You see the Principles freed me from fighting my experience, but I had confused allowing with passivity. What I see now is that once we’ve stopped resisting, we can choose. Not to control, but to invite.

Linda was a prime example of this, meditating daily, seeing and feeling her healing as if it had already happened during her treatment, and doing her best to stay in elevated emotions as much as possible.

But what about the moments where fear and anxiety showed up and she couldn’t muster joy or gratitude, no matter how much she wanted to?

This presented a dilemma for her. And for me.

Because now Linda wasn’t just redirecting her gaze away from scary cancer stories. She now had another layer of fear arising that said that actually feeling fear, as a non elevated emotion, might make it worse. Her new understanding of manifestation had subtly made some feelings “good” and others “bad.”

So she tried to fight the fear, to swap it out for joy.

It didn’t work.

She’d loop around feeling fear and trying to fight it, which just kept the whole loop alive.

And that’s when I came back to what I had always known.

Not as a rejection of what she was learning, but as an integration.

When I saw her in one of those loops, I’d grab our shoes and we’d go for a walk. On those walks, I’d gently remind her not to fight the feelings. To just let them be energy passing through but to not give them energy. And as we walked, those waves of fear or sadness would naturally process. Eventually, she’d settle. And only then, from a more grounded place, could she genuinely could choose to feel elevated emotions again.

This gave her back her humanness. And paradoxically, it made elevated emotions more available, because her mind and body weren’t busy suppressing anything.

“Permission to feel it all makes elevated emotions more available, because the body is no longer busy suppressing anything.”

It was the best of both worlds: the ability to be fully human and the ability to return to pure consciousness and choose.

This last part fascinated me. Because the Principles, for all their brilliance, had always felt a little passive when it came to creation. But this? This gave us back our power.

And it also showed me something else which I hadn’t seen clearly in my early 3P days.

There’s wisdom in allowing thought and feeling to move. But if we stop there, we can start believing we’re just passengers. That we can’t choose what we feel.

And that simply isn’t true.

As pure consciousness, that place where we are settled and not in the judgments and contractions of the ego, we CAN choose.

We can shift our gaze.

We can direct our breath.

We can recall a memory that fills our heart, or imagine a moment that hasn’t happened yet, and feel it as if it has.

That doesn’t mean we control everything. But it does mean we’re not powerless. We’re not just watching life. We’re participating in it.

Earlier today, I caught myself doing it. I was in a slightly low state. It was nothing dramatic, but I felt off. So I paused. I placed a hand on my chest.

This is Woody. Sometimes, the quickest way back to coherence is remembering a wagging tail and a soft nudge.

I allowed myself to feel what was coming up and then as space returned I gently shifted my gaze. I thought of my dog, Woody, shown above. He’s literally happy all the time. His tail constantly wags and I feel joy whenever I am around him. I let that visual fill me. And within seconds, my body changed. My breath changed. The whole emotional field shifted.

Not because I rejected what I was feeling. But because I remembered that I, in that space of settled neutrality, could choose what to focus on. And that choice, made from presence, not pressure or resistance, changed everything.

This, to me, is the integration.

Feel.

Settle.

Choose.

Repeat.

“We don’t create by avoiding our humanity. We create by learning how to move through it, and return, again and again, to the deeper signal we want to live from.”

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Want to Try This?

If you’re curious to experience this for yourself, try this gentle rhythm sometime today:

Pause.

Place a hand on your heart. Close your eyes if that feels natural.

Notice & Feel.

Is there a feeling moving through? Don’t label it or resist it. Just feel and breathe into it - like weather in the body.

Settle.

Let your breath move gently. Let the feeling be there without needing to fix it. No pressure. No rush.

Choose.

When you feel a little more space, bring to mind a moment, past or imagined, that warms you. A child’s laugh. A place that feels like home. A version of you already free and whole. A cherished pet like Woody! Let the feeling of that settle in your chest.

That’s it.

No performance. No perfect state required. Just a return to the part of you that always knew how to choose.

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